Questions to Ask Yourself Before We Turn the Page

Monday, December 30, 2013

The Lady Okie Blog

Before my final letter to 2013, I thought I'd answer some more questions about 2013! If you'd like to add your thoughts, head on over to The Lady Okie, link-up, and visit some other bloggers! So without further adieu, here are 14 deep and meaningful (I hope?) questions about 2013 and 2014. I picked 14 because we're heading in 2014, but the original post had 25 questions... so feel free to check those out, too!

1. What am I most proud of this year?
Well, I'm definitely proud of my improved MCAT score, mainly because I worked my butt off for it! I'm also proud of myself for actually reapplying to med school, even though it felt (and continues to feel) totally insane.

2. How can I become a better _____________?

Wife - I am definitely going to try to be more "present" when I spend time with Ken. First of all, that means carving out time to spend specifically with Ken. I'm really bad at that. Then, it means not being on my laptop or my phone while we're spending time together. I'm just really bad at NOT multi-tasking. I know that time is a commodity, though, and it's only going to get more precious if I go back to med school. I definitely need to work on this to help keep our relationship healthy and happy.

3. Where am I feeling stuck?
Definitely feeling stuck in my current body shape, and even though I know the things that I need to do to fix that, I can't seem to get it together. I'm also feeling stuck in this job, but for now, that has to just be what it is until I get my life together re: med school. And as usual, I'm stuck in my own head re: depression and anxiety. Working on that.

4. Where do I need to allow myself grace?
I need to be kinder to myself, in general. One of my goals is to show myself the same kindness and love that I show to those I love.
5. Am I passionate about my career?
Mmmm, no. No, not really. I like research, and I love working at a children's hospital... but I am definitely more passionate about my potential career than the one I'm currently in. We'll see what happens with med school, but this will need to be addressed if the med school thing doesn't happen.

6. What lessons have I learned?
I feel like this is the same whenever anyone asks me this, but, "You can be afraid and you can do it anyway," is one of my favorite lessons. I also continue to learn it, over and over again. Also, here's your obvious lesson of the day, folks. Marriage is hard work. Good work, but hard work.

7. What did I my finances look like?
Well, they were better than years prior, but still not great. I am making an active effort to put away a legit amount of savings in 2014, which just didn't happen in 2013... at all. As a unit, Ken and I are
fine, but I'd like to get my personal finances in better order.

8. How did I spend my free time?
Sleeping, reading, watching TV, blogging. I feel okay about that.

9. How well did I take care of my body, mind, and soul?
C for effort, F for execution, my friends. I am the worst at taking care of myself. I have a lot of good intentions, but you know what they say about those and the road to hell, etc. I will say that I started getting treatment for my RA-that-we-didn't-know-was-RA-until-this-year, but other than that, I kind of failed at taking care of myself. 

10. What projects have I completed?
We moved into a new condo (always a project) and then painted 2 of the rooms... which was alternately fun and maddening. We also hung up lots of photographs/posters/etc and rearranged the living room a bit, which definitely improved things. I also baked a lot and learned how to use my DSLR a bit more. 

11. When have I felt the most alive?
Oddly, I felt pretty alive while studying. That sounds really weird, right? I think it was the combination of using my brain in a real way and knowing that I was progressing towards my goal of being a doctor that made it feel so "right".

12. How can I improve my relationships?
Like I said for being a better wife, I want to work on being more present in all of my relationships. I want to make sure that I tell people when I'm thinking about them and that I love them, whether that's by picking up the phone or sending a little note. I want to keep in better touch with people, friends and family alike. I also need to learn to say "no" and not overextend myself, because if I say no up front, then I won't have to cancel plans last minute because I'm not feeling well or whatever. I know that some last-minute cancellations are inevitable, but I want to avoid them as much as possible. Know thyself, and all.

13. What old habits would I like to release?
As always, I want to work on being less anxious about life, the universe, and everything. I'd also like to not let the laundry get so piled up. And I would like to stop beating myself up mentally about... everything.

14. What new habits would I like to cultivate?
I say it every year, but this is the year I'm going to start going to the gym on a regular basis! I'd also like to get back into playing the viola regularly, so I'm going back to The Philharmonic of Southern NJ next week. (Let's hope that my RA doesn't screw this up, shall we?) Also, I want to bring my lunch to work more often, and get to bed by ten before midnight. (Let's be serious.)

Do you have any self-reflection rituals that you do, either at the end of the year or throughout? What are some of your goals, thoughts, hopes, and dreams for 2014?

Happy last-Monday-of-2013, my friends!

- A


  1. So, I actually know what you mean about feeling alive while studying. Sometimes I miss the college days! ... I'm kind of a freak! haha. Weren't these questions great? I really liked all of them and had a hard time narrowing it down to only 13! Thanks for linking up!

    1. These were really good questions... I was going to do all 25 at first, but I liked your idea of narrowing it down. Thanks for hosting the link-up, and happy new year!

  2. Congrats on applying to med school! That's a huge step and I hope it works out for you. I completely agree about being intentional when you are married and spending time together. It's easy to be multi-tasking but so not worth it in the end. Why do we do that??? Thanks for linking up and for sharing your story.

    1. Thanks! It's exciting and terrifying all at the same time (like most big life decisions tend to be, I guess, haha). I think I try to multitask all the time because I feel like I have to be productive and doing things... but nothing extra really ever gets done because I'm not focused! Thanks for stopping by and hosting the link-up!


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